As we prepare to celebrate the 4th of July, it’s important to take a moment to think about what all of the excitement is about. Not from the standpoint of the historical fact that the United States became independent from British rule, but from the standpoint that people wanted to make decisions for themselves – so they did!
The word independent means, not being subject to the control of others: self-governing. Developmentally, children start practicing independent behavior between the ages of 4-6! This is where they start formalizing relationships outside of their immediate family members. From there, the need for independence only increases as they get older. And while we all may consider others in the way we make decisions or solicit the advice of trusted advisors about the people we choose to invite into our lives, as we mature, we should not be required to seek approval from others as we learn to govern ourselves. Being independent should mean something.
Independence is a bedrock characteristic that supports our ability to thrive. As people, we should always look for ways to encourage the independence of others. Whether it’s through learning something new or experiencing new people and places, we should embrace the freedoms we’ve all been granted simply because we exist.
Throughout this month, take stock in how supportive you are with your family, friends, and colleagues in your promotion of their independence. Their thoughts, ideas, likes and dislikes deserve respect and acceptance. Acceptance doesn’t necessarily mean agreement, however, it does mean freedom.
Happy Independence Day!
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